Happy Last Weekend in March!

Etsy Favorites Friday - Danny Phillips Art

I like these funky mixed media collage prints from Danny Phillips Art on Etsy.

Have you seen the Lost and Found Project?

Wow. That's all I can say about this amazing project, called The Lost and Found Project. The people searching for survivors in the aftermath of the March 11th tsunami in Japan found thousands of photographs in the rubble. They brought them all to a local elementary school gymnasium, to be cleaned and restored as best as possible and hopefully returned to their rightful owners. It's an inspiring and powerful story. Be sure to check out the website for details and to read the story.

I Dig This

Entryway

via Inspiration for Decoration

Quotes Wednesday

I just saw the new Dr. Seuss movie The Lorax this weekend in the theater, so I figured that a Seuss quote was appropriate for today. Here's one of my favorites, from i can read.

The Story Teller

Bean has become a story teller lately. It's one of my favorite things about this stage with her. She loves to tell stories, and loves to draw them out. We just get out a pad of paper and a pen. She tells a story and draws it as best as a 3 year old can, and I'll write it out for her. They're simple stories that usually make very little sense. They wouldn't sell in any major bookstores. But they're the beginnings of an imaginative mind. And I can tell she knows how stories are supposed to go, with a beginning, a middle and an end. And she knows that she is the author. This early story telling makes me so happy. Here's her latest story which she titled "The Bumblebee and Monster Eat Pizza." In this story a bumblebee lives in a far far land. She's very clear about who the monster is. He smiles alot. The bumblebee and the monster eat pizza. And then the bumblebee and a princess make a necklace, and the monster took it from them. The End. Brilliant. 

The New Plan

I don't know about you, but I've always been a life planner. At 8 years old I knew, just knew, that I'd be a teacher after college. As I was graduating college I knew, just knew, that I'd have two kids and a house with my then boyfriend by age 25. When none of that happened by age 25 I knew, just knew, that I'd work for a while in finance and then I'd quit and have kids and become a teacher. When that didn't happen by age 35 I knew, just knew that I'd adopt both my kids before age 40 and we'd be fully past the toddler years as we were heading over the hill. And when they were in kindergarten I could quit my finance job and get into teaching, finally. And my kids would be close in age just like me and my sister. That was the plan, revised about a thousand times. I don't know why it's taken me 37 years to realize that I don't know anything about how my life is supposed to turn out, even in the next couple of years. Life is constantly changing and evolving, mostly into something better than I had planned even with the hiccups and catastrophes along the way. Most of the travels, the things I've done, the people I've met wouldn't have happened if my original plan had worked out. I think about this every day as I watch my daughter grow up and bring us so much joy. And as we get together with the families we've met through our adoption community. My original plan didn't work out. What happened is way better.

So I am done planning. The new "plan" is no plan. It's to roll with it. What life brings me and what feels right at the time is what is meant to happen, even if it's not in the plan. 

That's why our decision to back off the adoption list for a couple of years to get on more solid financial ground feels right. This wasn't in the original or revised plan at all. It sets me way back on that plan actually. I'll be 40+ with a newborn, not a teacher for at least another 7 to 8 years or maybe never because I may just want to stay in finance forever, and my kids will be at least 5 to 6 years apart. Um, ok. So what is so darn wrong with that? NOTHING!!

I had a recent epiphany - all those things I had "planned" for so long were just pre-conceived ideas that I've had stuck in my head that have probably been limiting me from really living my life and rolling with the punches. 

I've often admired resilient people. Those people who don't seemed phased when stuff happens that sets them back a little. And I've never thought of myself as an overly resilient person. Probably because I've planned too much, and stuff happens that always pushes me off my plan. But now I think I will be more resilient. Life changes in too many unexpected ways to try to stick to a plan. In the little things day to day, and the bigger life changing things. Resilient people know that life will go on and will probably be better for the change of plans.

I'm not saying I'm abandoning my life dreams. Daydreaming about the future is one thing. But planning so much that your life revolves around future plans that you can't control and you're disappointed when it doesn't go according to the plan is another.

We made the decision to back off the adoption list for financial reasons. But once we made that decision it became crystal clear that it needed to happen that way for many more reasons. I don't know exactly what they all are yet. But somehow I just know, just know, that it's meant to happen this way. And our lives will evolve around it, in unexpected, unplanned ways.

Are You A Fast Chick?

Calling all active Boston area women - join us for the Fast Chicks 5k Run/Walk on Saturday, May 5th 2012. Check the website for details and registration.

Upcycled Garden Faucet Coat Racks

Loving these upcycled coat racks using old garden faucets and reclaimed boards. Cool idea for a DIY, or buy them at The Door Stop Etsy shop. 

Photo of the Day - At The Carwash

I can honestly say I haven't done a driveway carwash in mid-March since I left Texas 20 years ago. This year is so drastically different than last year. Maybe it's global warming? Oh well. I'll take it. 

Are You Additive?

There's a person in my work life who has made many lives miserable. This person has been nothing but negative for everyone who works with or for him. When I think of him, I think "I am worse off for knowing him, he has taken from my life." For the last several years I have suffered under his leadership, and have lost sleep and probably years off the end of my life. That needs to change, and it will. Soon. Instead of leaving angry, I am going to leave on a good note. And I am going to make it my personal mission in life to be additive to the people I meet and the people I know in life. I may not be famous, or achieve all of the things in life that I wanted to when I was younger. And nobody is perfect. I can't be all things to all people all the time and I'll probably piss a few people off again during my life. But after my experience with this person, the one thing that I know I want to do is to be additive. I want the people I know in my lifetime to think "I am better for knowing her, she has added to my life" when they think of me. And not the other way around, like the person I've dealt with lately. That's the little contribution I want to make to the world, if nothing else. Think about it. Are you additive?

Birthday Weekend

 

 

Three years ago today I had no idea what the next day would bring. Three years ago today I didn't even know that my beautiful girl existed, that she would be born on the luckiest of days the very next day and that her birthmother would make the hardest decision of her life. And she would choose us. Our worlds were still separate, which doesn't even seem possible. Three years ago today I had no idea the blessing that was coming my way. Happy, happy lucky birthday weekend.

Quotes Wednesday

Talk does not cook rice.

- Chinese proverb

Mommy We Can Calm Our Bodies Here

Yesterday was a rare incredibly warm March day. Bean and I took advantage of our day together by hitting the beach. We kicked a ball down the beach, built a sand castle, dug for treasures, and dared each other to touch the cold ocean water. That was great in itself. But the best part of the trip was when I was sitting next to her as she was digging. I was gazing out over the landscape, taking the beauty of it, thinking how lucky I am to have the opportunity to be here with her enjoying this. I thought nothing could be better. Until she stopped digging and crawled on my lap and said "Mama, we can calm our bodies here, isn't it beautiful?" And she proceeded to sit on my lap and just relax for a good five minutes. And we enjoyed the beauty of the landscape together, and calmed our bodies together. At that moment, all of our recent financial worries we've had about me going part time vanished. It's been harder financially. No doubt. But this day at the beach with her never would have happened if I was still full time. Our little girl has learned one of very best coping skills ever, at 3 years old. Going to be beach and sitting and taking it all in is one of the best places to "calm your body." And it was calming yesterday for me and her, as opposed to the stress we were all under last year at this time. It was one of those "it's all worth it" moments for me. And I am grateful for it, and for the day with her at the beach.

Where Have You Been in the US?

Have you seen this website where you can create a map of the states you've visited? I think it's interesting. When I look at my map, I evidently need to do some traveling around the middle of the country and the Pacific Northwest to round out my American travel experience. Honestly though, I'm not sure I ever really want to see the Dakotas, Iowa, Idaho, and Kansas. I know that sounds harsh and probably totally naive, but there's so many places outside the US I'd rather visit than these states. On the other hand, I definitely want to visit Portland, Oregon, and Seattle,Washington. And eventually I'd like to venture to Alaska.

Check it out, and see what your travel map looks like. What states would you want to visit to round out your American travel experience?